Help Your Partner Breastfeed

There are so many reasons to breastfeed. The health benefits to mom and baby are enormous.

But that doesn't mean it's easy.

New dads need to do everything they can to support their partners and encourage breastfeeding.

You can:

1) Bring her water when she's nursing.

2) Make sure there is a bowl of fruit and nuts by her favorite nursing spot and replenish it often.

3) Help her get enough sleep by taking the baby out during the day so she can nap.

4) Encourage her to learn to nurse lying down in bed so night nursing is easier.

5) Do more than your share of the housework so she can enjoy the baby and not stress about dishes. Being relaxed and bonded with a baby helps facilitate successful breastfeeding.

6) Encourage her to breastfeed as long as she and the baby are both happy doing so.

7) Forget about the twins being your favorite horizontal toy. While your partner is nursing she probably won't want you touching them a lot during sex.

Need another reason to breastfeed? A new study shows that formula feeding increases the risk of leukemia.

As reported by Charles Bankhead, a staff writer for MedPage Today, the longer a baby's on formula, the higher the leukemia risk.

According to the MedPage Today article:

Action Points

• Prolonged formula feeding may increase the odds for pediatric acute lymphoblastic leukemia (ALL).
• Note that each additional month of delaying solid food increased risk by 14%.
• Breastfeeding exclusively for at least six months is the best health insurance policy for infants and their mom."Prolonged formula feeding may increase the odds for pediatric acute lymphoblastic leukemia (ALL), investigators in a case-control study concluded.

"Each additional month of formula feeding was associated with a 16% increase in the relative risk of ALL compared with a control group. Every additional month of delay in the start of solid foods increased the odds by 14%.

"The findings might reflect the recognized association between breastfeeding and development of an infant's immune system, Jeremy Schraw reported at the American Association for Cancer Research Frontiers in Cancer Prevention Research meeting in Anaheim, Calif.

"One explanation for this co-risk may be that it's the same effect being picked up twice," Schraw, a graduate student at the University of Texas at Austin, said in a statement. "Children being given solid foods later may be receiving formula longer."

"ALL is the most common malignancy in children, and several studies have suggested interaction between feeding practices and its development. Some of the evidence suggests interaction among diet, normal immune-system development, and levels of insulin-like growth factor, said Schraw."

If You Improve Your Marriage You'll Have More Sex

When you and your partner are doing better vertically, you'll have more fun horizontally.

That horizontal fun often results in a child, or a second child, or--surprise!--a third.

Wait a second, how did that happen? Was it an accident?

When family and friends ask you and your wife if this next pregnancy was a surprise, even if it was, answer: "Big surprise, I have no idea how it happened. Could you explain it to me?"

Though some women love to have sex when their pregnant, others can't stand the sight of you and think your breath smells like rotten meat. Either way, having (more) children creates stress on your relationship, which makes it harder to find time to be intimate.

That guy from work who told you it was a piece of cake to have kids? Break his knuckles next time you see him.


In the meantime, there's a good book to read about improving your marriage, two copies of which are being given away by co-author of the Baby Bonding Book for Dads, Jennifer Margulis.

MARRIAGE RULES: A MANUAL FOR THE MARRIED AND THE COUPLED UP by psychologist Harriet Lerner who, we can only hope, has a good marriage and gets lots of action.

Leave a comment on Jennifer's blog by September 7th to throw your hat in the ring to win a free copy.

Dads to Blame for Hereditary Problems

Excerpts from an article of interest about a study from researchers in Iceland linking the father's age to genetic disorders in his offspring:

"Kids' Mutation Rate Tracks with Father's Age," By Michael Smith, North American Correspondent, MedPage Today Published: August 22, 2012 Reviewed by Dori F. Zaleznik, MD; Associate Clinical Professor of Medicine, Harvard Medical School, Boston

 In a large-scale genetic study, every 1-year increase in the father's age at conception of a child added two new single nucleotide polymorphisms, according to Kari Stefansson, MD, PhD, of deCODE Genetics in Reykjavik, Iceland, and colleagues.

 In contrast, the mother's age was not significantly associated with an increased number of such genetic variants, Stefansson and colleagues reported in the Aug. 23 issue of Nature.

"A father's age at the time a child is conceived explains nearly all of the population diversity in new hereditary mutations found in the offspring," Stefansson said in a statement. "Conventional wisdom has been to blame developmental disorders of children on the age of mothers," he said, but "it is the age of fathers that appears to be the real culprit."

The likelihood of new mutations in sperm is higher than in eggs, because sperm are continually produced, so there is more opportunity for genetic errors to creep in.

 One implication of the findings is that demographic changes that lead to men fathering children at an older age "can have a considerable impact on the rate of certain diseases linked to new mutation," Stefansson said.

The paternal effect on mutation rate has been demonstrated before, commented Alexey Kondrashov, PhD, of the University of Michigan in Ann Arbor. But the Icelandic study yields "the most precise and definite" estimates so far, he wrote in an accompanying article.

One implication of the finding, he argued, is that the rise of such syndromes as autism spectrum disorder might be partly explained by a relative lack of evolutionary selection pressure on humans, combined with the paternal effect.

The study was supported by the National Institutes of Health and the European Community. Stefansson is CEO of deCODE Genetics, and most authors are employees of the company.

Story at a glance: A mother-father-offspring study from Iceland found that de novo mutations in the offspring correlated with older age for the father.

Two extra single nucleotide polymorphisms occurred per year for every year of age older the father was at conception.

It's the father's age – not the mother's – that increases the risk of new hereditary mutations in children, researchers reported.

Moms Multitask More Than Dads, But They Don't Like It

A study in the American Sociological Review found that working moms multitask more than dads, and that all that doing-five-things-at-the-same-time is stressing them out.

Here's the abstract:

"This study suggests that multitasking constitutes an important source of gender inequality, which can help explain previous findings that mothers feel more burdened and stressed than do fathers even when they have relatively similar workloads. Using data from the 500 Family Study, including surveys and the Experience Sampling Method, the study examines activities parents simultaneously engage in and how they feel when multitasking. We find that mothers spend 10 more hours a week multitasking compared to fathers and that these additional hours are mainly related to time spent on housework and childcare. For mothers, multitasking activities at home and in public are associated with an increase in negative emotions, stress, psychological distress, and work-family conflict. By contrast, fathers’ multitasking at home involves less housework and childcare and is not a negative experience. We also find several similarities by gender. Mothers’ and fathers’ multitasking in the company of a spouse or children are positive experiences, whereas multitasking at work, although associated with an increased sense of productivity, is perceived as a negative experience."

You can read the entire study, "Revisiting the Gender Gap in Time-Use Patterns: Multitasking and Well-Being among Mothers and Fathers in Dual-Earner Families" here.